Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.
Being separated and not dating is one of the hardest temptations to resist. You'll also make your decision about more than just what you want.
Decide wisely because a lot of heartache is at stake.
It’s what feels right for me and I feel ready for it.
I wouldn’t fear being exclusive with the right person.
A more accurate term for 'separated' in most of these cases would really be 'separating,' since few of these people are actually through their divorces or have completely ended their previous relationships.
What I’ve noticed is that no woman seems to want to touch me with a 10 foot pole because I’m ‘separated.’ My divorce is pending and will be finalized in September (it’s written better in the profile).
I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.
People often wonder about dating someone who is separated—not officially divorced. I have been separated for over a year, with young kids I have half the time.
There’s no love there though, we’ve clearly moved on. I have my stuff together…own my own place, pursuing an MBA, good job, do the best for my kids, and I’m in a good place right now.
I’m not looking to rush back into a marriage, but I’m looking to date with an intent on finding a relationship.